Are you having fun yet?

Stefan 5

Hello and welcome to another post.

My last post on Veganism did surprisingly well, receiving many more views and shares than usual. That was nice.

I have been doing some thinking.

About what I should do with the rest of my life. I have too often given into fear and plodded along, feeling safe but dreadfully uninspired and listless – ‘going through the motions’, as they say.

Ever since I left High School at 16, I have felt lost and worked in jobs I despise. All for that small paycheck each month. After High School, I went to College and studied Business and Finance. I only picked the subject because it sounded safe and usable in the real World. Not to mention, I had no idea what else to do. I thought about doing Drama and Film Studies … that kind of thing. But the realist in me said it’d be a waste of time and would get me nowhere.

I did tremendously well in the Business & Finance course (a BTEC National Diploma), getting top grades, but I felt no sense of achievement because it was all meaningless and I was too busy worrying about my health and feeling depressed (having reacted badly to the medication, Roaccutane).

It is surprising how fast the years can go by. Let’s face it – there are things along the way that are changing and keeping you busy, so you don’t always notice what is happening and where you are headed. Suddenly it’s the start of another year, or your birthday, and you realise you are wasting time …

I have been working within Insurance for the past 3 years (working for 3 different employers). I can do it, easy enough. But the repetition, the stress, the workload … where is the pay off? What’s the sodding point?

I realised that part of the problem is feeling stagnant. I am no longer learning and I am terribly bored of it all. A job can suck all of your energy if it isn’t right for you and so I realise it is time to get my act together, before I end up trapped forever.

So, whilst I don’t have a precise plan yet – and I really should have figured all of this out sooner – I am going to learn new things. I am going to follow my heart, because I have rarely done so and it has left me a shadow, barely living.

I think my options are as follows:

  • Study part-time, selecting an Open University course. This would take six years.
  • Or – going to a University and getting a Bachelor’s degree. This would take three years.

I think I prefer the sound of Option B.

So, the next question is what would I study? It’s got to be something I actually WANT to learn and use. I am going to dig deeper, but my interests (that I think I could get a job out of at the end of it) are:

  • Psychology
  • Sociology
  • Philosophy
  • Social Work
  • English (Writing)
  • Journalism
  • Counselling
  • Psychotherapy
  • Animal Science

I think Psychology or Philosophy are the two that stick out the most for me. I don’t really know what job I could get from Philosophy, but I am very interested in ideologies surrounding our existence and around ethics. As I have explained before, and as you may gather with me being a HSP, ethics are very important to me.

But that’s good isn’t it? …

I’m thinking now. Instead of feeling like I can’t make a decision or feeling like my only option is to do what I have always done, I am actually looking into my options. I used to hope that there was an easier path. One where I didn’t have to study. But any time I look at jobs being posted, they are all … ahem, crap.

Without a degree, I can easily get a job in retail, insurance or admin.

But life is too short to sell your soul for a paycheck. I crave meaning and I want to care about the work I do.

I want to make a difference.

If I have to study for a few years in order to secure a better future, then so be it. And I am still terrified. I can still over-think it and worry that a degree isn’t enough to find a job afterwards. Or that I’ll struggle. Or people won’t like me on the course.

But sometimes you have to tell that cynical voice to keep it down and focus on what you want. And you need to have a bit of faith in yourself.

I’d love to hear from you in the comments.

~ Alex.

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3 thoughts on “Are you having fun yet?

  1. Hello Stefan. It seem to me that you are already good enough at writing and expressing your thoughts into words.. If I would be you I would pick writing. But not at school. You don’t really need a school for that, you just need to write – and that is what you are doing right now. So I don’t be too hard on yourself.;) Also I think that an INFJ in general would be a great psychoterapist, but I also think that would be too hard emotionally for us, that we would care too much for our patiens and “take the job at home” if you know what I mean… And for Animal Care – you don’t need the school either, you could just easily go to some company in the world (in some poor country for example) and work as a volunteer there to gain the experience… Also you can start working in your free time in any shelter that would let you and that is a start.. I believe that when you get on your right path that all the obsticles will go away and it will get easy for you to continue and get better at the job. However I do know how exactly you feel.. I am at the same spot right now… just financial situation won’t let me go right now… but I now, I really believe that all that is happening to me is just because I am NOT at the right path and it just tries to get me there… I am not sure if I make sense to you… But I wish you the best and please, trust yourself a little bit more, you need it.. btw – are you still on medication? Have you tried anything less harmful? Meditation and yoga is really, really good for depression and anxiety.. it will also help with trusting to yourself more and be more confident..
    Thank you for your blog, I really like it. 🙂

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  2. Great post – I left high school at 16 as well. Writing sounds like a great idea, as you could become a full time writer or something that can spread a positive message. Whatever it is, each one of them sound a lot more meaningful than doing something that feels repetitive/simply for the paycheck!

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