Book Stores Vs. Amazon

There is no doubt that Amazon is a powerhouse, bringing an end to many businesses.

Is there any other industry that has been as affected as book stores?

Today, I was in Waterstones and I bought 3 books.

  1. Them by Jon Ronson
  2. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
  3. The man who couldn’t stop by David Adam.

I love being able to walk around a book store, even if my social anxiety is kicking in and I feel self-conscious when viewing the self-help aisle (‘Will people think I’m a loser?’).

Each book cost me the following (as per the above order):

  1. £9.99
  2. £8.99
  3. £8.99 (Total of £27.97)

Considering the work that goes into a book, you could quickly spend £28 on something less useful. However, I did check Amazon after and realised the prices were as follows:

  1. £4.99
  2. £6.29
  3. £7.48 (Total of £18.76)

Based on these 3 books alone, I could have saved £9.21 by shopping online. That’s pretty shocking, huh? If I had have bought them on the Kindle, I would have saved even more but I adore a real book, usually for the cover and the feeling of paper between my hands. Mmmmmm, paper. I do have over 500 books on my Kindle, mind you, so it certainly saves some physical space (though that one-click thingy eats my wallet like a fat kid with cake).

Over the years, a lot of book stores in Norwich (where I live) have closed down. But why would anyone choose to pay extra? Is it taking the piss to go to a book store and jot down all the books you are interested by and then purchase them from Amazon? Is it ethical to support huge corporations that don’t pay their taxes?

Waterstones must fucking hate Amazon.

I suppose it’s good to know how much you will save online. If it’s more than a couple of quid per book, maybe it’s best to buy in bulk from Amazon. That way you get much more for your buck.

It’s also helpful to see reviews while browsing. Before picking up ‘The man who couldn’t stop’, I had picked up a book on Serial Killers … it sounded quite interesting. However, when in Costa afterwards, I saw most people reviewed the book 1-star, saying the author spent far too much time boasting about his talents and other works, so I took it back.

For someone trying to save money and be more minimalist, I don’t go and spunk all my money on heaps of clothes and whatever else, so I guess spending a bit more money on books to support local stores isn’t a problem. For fellow book worms, imagine a World with no book stores … That would suck.

Thanks for reading.

~ Stefan



An update on everything…


It has been a while again since posting on here.

I am much more consistent on my YouTube channel.

Here’s an update on some things.

I have been feeling rather burned out and flat, and I have been quite busy. I recently completed a 10-week introduction to writing fiction course. I have been playing Badminton weekly for around the same duration. I have been working 5 days a week, until this past week. I asked my girlfriend to Marry me 2 days ago (she said Yes).

I really want to be the best person I can be, so I have been doing a lot of thinking (as tends to be the case, given I am an INFJ personality type).

I keep f*cking up my sleep and going to bed far too late, given the state of my health and lack of energy. Instead of going to bed at around 11:30 – 00:00 (currently), I need to get settled down by around 10pm. It really need not be so complicated, but I make it so. That really is the first thing that needs to change if I want to feel better (and less like The Walking Dead).

I am due to go back to an employer to help out for a further couple of months, as another employee has handed their notice in. This will be my second return since originally leaving in January. This gives me a bit of time, but I do worry that I will always remain stuck like this. I have noticed that for INFJs (and HSPs), this is common – they struggle to hold down a job, because their minds desire so much more than an ordinary life. Another I have spoken to has had over 15 jobs in 10 years. I’m not too far off that…

I have been looking into the Myers-Briggs and Enneagram things a lot. I’m not sure which personality test is more accurate, but both are eerily good at describing me (I’m a Type 4w5 if you understand this stuff).

I have also recently ordered some Water Kefir grains, which were recommended to me by a friend who recovered from long-term chronic fatigue issues. Water Kefir is a fermented drink that should hopefully increase my ‘good bacteria’ as my digestion could be much better than it is. If this does help, I will be sure to talk about it down the line. Digestion is obviously very important in health and releasing toxins. It can feel impossible to be content and happy when your body isn’t in good shape.

I have been meaning to write the rest of my book (which will be called ‘My Highly Sensitive World’) but I have honestly not felt motivated or inspired to do so in some time.

Once I get my sleep pattern on track, and can live with the uncertainty of my future, I imagine my creative side will be re-awakened.

I am going to read some books myself, so I can get back into reading things that aren’t just self-help books on Anxiety/Depression/Myers-Briggs.

A few on my list are:

  • Neverwhere by Neil Gaiman
  • Looking for Alaska by John Green
  • Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu (I suppose this is a bit self-helpy)
  • The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett
  • The Couple Next Door by Shari Lapena
  • Slaughterhouse Five by Kurt Vonnegut
  • The Phantom Toolbooth by Norton Juster
  • Beneath a Scarlet Sky by Mark Sullivan

A few that I have recently enjoyed are:

  • The Introvert’s Way by Sophia Dembling
  • The Enneagram: Pathways to Happiness by Veronica Croft
  • Life’s Golden Ticket by Brendon Burchard

I hope you are doing okay.

If you haven’t seen my YouTube videos in a while, here is one I recently filmed outside:

~ Stefan

Turn NEGATIVE Energy Into POSITIVE Action! (With Video)

Hello again.

Coming at you with another video today, in which I discuss negative emotions (such as Anger and Frustration) and suggest ways of making them positive.

As always, thank you for your participation in this Blog and my YouTube channel.

Have a great day,

~ Stefan

13 Reasons Why – Netflix Series Review

Hi guys and gals! I hope you are well.

I just had a really delicious Vegan meal at Ask Italian (Some doughballs, Vegan Pizza and a Chocolate torte with raspberry sorbet… Mmmm!) My head is a little bit light from drinking a Tropical Mojito.

I have a schedule for my YouTube videos now (which I will do my best to stick to) … So stay tuned on Wednesday, Friday & Sunday at 5PM, as that is when the videos will go live.

In this video, I talk about a wonderfully acclaimed series that just hit Netflix.

It’s relation to this blog is in its ties to Mental Health (mainly Depression). As an INFJ, I feel like the show was made for me.

If you haven’t already seen the show, you should do so. And then you can watch my thoughts here:

*Book Update* – Win a Free Copy!


Hello to you!

If you have been following this Blog for a little while, you will know that I am writing a book on being a Highly Sensitive DUDE. Things may have sidetracked me for a while, but I am getting back to it.

I expect this will be released within the next 3-4 months, while I finish writing it, getting a cover sorted and edit everything nicely.

The book will essentially be a diary containing some examples of how this trait has affected my life, but will also aim to offer insights into how we can make the most of this way of being, rather than seeing it as a curse or block to experience a ‘normal’ life.

Once the book is finished, I will make it available to everyone through Amazon.

If you would like a FREE copy of the book, before anybody else has access to it, this is what you need to do:

  • ‘Like’ my page on Facebook: HERE
  • Review my page on Facebook (this is based on the Blog Posts and YouTube Videos)

That’s it! Simple.

For those who commit to the above, I will choose a few of you (depending on how many take part) and you will be sent the book for free (as a PDF). If successful, I will message you to get a hold of your email address.

That’s all for now folks.

I hope you are well,

~ Stefan.


The Bullet Journal

Hi Readers,

I just wanted to write briefly, to advise of a new video I have uploaded. If you are like me and can easily forget upcoming plans – or need a bit of structure in order to feel organised – you will benefit greatly from the idea of ‘The Bullet Journal’.

Basically, it is a quick reference diary where you can find plans at a glance. You can use the diary for songwriting, poetry, drawing – ANYTHING.

Watch the video for some ideas.

~ Stefan