An update on everything…

Hello,

It has been a while again since posting on here.

I am much more consistent on my YouTube channel.

Here’s an update on some things.

I have been feeling rather burned out and flat, and I have been quite busy. I recently completed a 10-week introduction to writing fiction course. I have been playing Badminton weekly for around the same duration. I have been working 5 days a week, until this past week. I asked my girlfriend to Marry me 2 days ago (she said Yes).

I really want to be the best person I can be, so I have been doing a lot of thinking (as tends to be the case, given I am an INFJ personality type).

I keep f*cking up my sleep and going to bed far too late, given the state of my health and lack of energy. Instead of going to bed at around 11:30 – 00:00 (currently), I need to get settled down by around 10pm. It really need not be so complicated, but I make it so. That really is the first thing that needs to change if I want to feel better (and less like The Walking Dead).

I am due to go back to an employer to help out for a further couple of months, as another employee has handed their notice in. This will be my second return since originally leaving in January. This gives me a bit of time, but I do worry that I will always remain stuck like this. I have noticed that for INFJs (and HSPs), this is common – they struggle to hold down a job, because their minds desire so much more than an ordinary life. Another I have spoken to has had over 15 jobs in 10 years. I’m not too far off that…

I have been looking into the Myers-Briggs and Enneagram things a lot. I’m not sure which personality test is more accurate, but both are eerily good at describing me (I’m a Type 4w5 if you understand this stuff).

I have also recently ordered some Water Kefir grains, which were recommended to me by a friend who recovered from long-term chronic fatigue issues. Water Kefir is a fermented drink that should hopefully increase my ‘good bacteria’ as my digestion could be much better than it is. If this does help, I will be sure to talk about it down the line. Digestion is obviously very important in health and releasing toxins. It can feel impossible to be content and happy when your body isn’t in good shape.

I have been meaning to write the rest of my book (which will be called ‘My Highly Sensitive World’) but I have honestly not felt motivated or inspired to do so in some time.

Once I get my sleep pattern on track, and can live with the uncertainty of my future, I imagine my creative side will be re-awakened.

I am going to read some books myself, so I can get back into reading things that aren’t just self-help books on Anxiety/Depression/Myers-Briggs.

A few on my list are:

  • Neverwhere by Neil Gaiman
  • Looking for Alaska by John Green
  • Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu (I suppose this is a bit self-helpy)
  • The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett
  • The Couple Next Door by Shari Lapena
  • Slaughterhouse Five by Kurt Vonnegut
  • The Phantom Toolbooth by Norton Juster
  • Beneath a Scarlet Sky by Mark Sullivan

A few that I have recently enjoyed are:

  • The Introvert’s Way by Sophia Dembling
  • The Enneagram: Pathways to Happiness by Veronica Croft
  • Life’s Golden Ticket by Brendon Burchard

I hope you are doing okay.

If you haven’t seen my YouTube videos in a while, here is one I recently filmed outside:

~ Stefan

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13 Reasons Why – Netflix Series Review

Hi guys and gals! I hope you are well.

I just had a really delicious Vegan meal at Ask Italian (Some doughballs, Vegan Pizza and a Chocolate torte with raspberry sorbet… Mmmm!) My head is a little bit light from drinking a Tropical Mojito.

I have a schedule for my YouTube videos now (which I will do my best to stick to) … So stay tuned on Wednesday, Friday & Sunday at 5PM, as that is when the videos will go live.

In this video, I talk about a wonderfully acclaimed series that just hit Netflix.

It’s relation to this blog is in its ties to Mental Health (mainly Depression). As an INFJ, I feel like the show was made for me.

If you haven’t already seen the show, you should do so. And then you can watch my thoughts here:

*Book Update* – Win a Free Copy!

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Hello to you!

If you have been following this Blog for a little while, you will know that I am writing a book on being a Highly Sensitive DUDE. Things may have sidetracked me for a while, but I am getting back to it.

I expect this will be released within the next 3-4 months, while I finish writing it, getting a cover sorted and edit everything nicely.

The book will essentially be a diary containing some examples of how this trait has affected my life, but will also aim to offer insights into how we can make the most of this way of being, rather than seeing it as a curse or block to experience a ‘normal’ life.

Once the book is finished, I will make it available to everyone through Amazon.

If you would like a FREE copy of the book, before anybody else has access to it, this is what you need to do:

  • ‘Like’ my page on Facebook: HERE
  • Review my page on Facebook (this is based on the Blog Posts and YouTube Videos)

That’s it! Simple.

For those who commit to the above, I will choose a few of you (depending on how many take part) and you will be sent the book for free (as a PDF). If successful, I will message you to get a hold of your email address.

That’s all for now folks.

I hope you are well,

~ Stefan.

 

Feeling Angry.

Anger is one of the worst emotions out there … Or is it?

There is a powerful energy in Anger. When I have felt deeply angry – when I have put up with too much for too long and have kept everything inside – the anger screams as it is finally released.

In those moments, I could lift the Big Show… Maybe not, because he’s 500 pounds, but Pure Anger is fucking explosive. It’s like a Volcano going off.

And I have a problem with Anger.

Because I’m a nice guy, and that isn’t really a value in this dog-eat-dog World. I try to be nice to people, but some people just don’t deserve it and some people are just assholes. It is exhausting to keep acting easy-going and nice when things piss you off and leave you emotionally drained. The amount of times I fake-laugh when I’m miserable inside… That shit has to stop. It takes so much energy to keep up an act like that.

It’s no secret that the World is a mad place. Working most of our lives IS stressful and trying to follow your dreams IS difficult, especially when there are Millions of people competing for the same things.

I get incredibly frustrated on a weekly basis. It is hard when you visualise the life you want (and deserve) but are so far from that picture.

I get very annoyed when I see some of the dicks making it Big on YouTube. For example, someone like KSI (with 15 Million Subscribers) just annoys me. Yet, he doesn’t have to do anything he doesn’t want to do. He doesn’t have to prostitute his soul for money. He can do whatever the fuck he wants. And while I am not very fond on the guy (and many others on YouTube), I massively envy that freedom. Imagine waking up and not having to drag yourself somewhere you hate… What a fucking nice idea that is.

Going back to the topic of Anger though – it is a tool to be utilized. Sure, it’s probably a reminder that your life is a mess and you may not know how to change things. It is there for a reason. But while it is there, use it wisely.

I was listening to a podcast earlier, and this guy was saying that using Anger to be a miserable dick, who shouts at people and creates hostility, is like wanking into a tissue and throwing it in the bin.

Not the nicest of visuals, but he had a point. Anger = Power. You can use it to destroy, or you can use it of a force of positivity. I guess it’s the difference between Hitler and Gandhi. And maybe you don’t want to be either of them. But if you are repeatedly getting angry (or rageful), you need to do something – DO ANYTHING.

If a job is causing the anger, and it has happened before for you, maybe you’re in the completely wrong job for your personality.

If it’s being caused by a certain person, maybe they aren’t good for you.

If it’s a bit of everything, your life needs a serious make-over.

I got about 3 or 4 hours’ sleep last night. Today was a really shitty day. This week was a really shitty week. My general adulthood has been shitty, too. So it’s time to do something about it. Anger comes from a feeling of no control, so reclaim a hold of your life. You can choose a lot. And maybe all the options come with some big negatives. But choose the one that makes sense the most. Does doing nothing make fucking sense to you?

If you don’t have the answers, find someone who does. If you don’t know where to turn next, just do anything but stay still.

That anger can be a good thing if used well.

From another perspective, we are animals. Anger would be useful for our survival. I often want to punch people when I’m angry, but luckily I have more foresight than that. Getting into a fight is never the solution. But hey, it’s a natural reaction to those stress hormones. Sitting in an office, under high pressure, is going to create a hectic mindset. It is an abnormal situation. Combined with a lack of sleep and other subsequent problems (like arguing with a spouse because something else is making you into a total shit) and of course you’re going to want to let some of that shit out.

I’m still trying to find a way to deal with my own anger issues. Maybe this post will make you feel less alone. The take-away from this is to be inquisitive towards your emotions. Why are they there? What is their purpose? What are they reflecting about your life?

If you do not express yourself, which seems to be what our backwards society suggests (i.e. Don’t be sad), then it’ll come out one way or another. If you are arguing with the few people you actually care about, it’s time to get angry towards the fuckers who are bringing you down.

Peace out – Go do some cool shit.

How To Save More Money!

I have touched on Minimalism in the past, but it’s something that will stay with me for the rest of my life – a lesson worth learning.

Based on the Myers-Briggs personality test, my personality type – INFJ – is one of the least likely to be financially successful. While I don’t think it’s a good idea to throw yourself into a category and believe you are destined to only achieve so much, it’s probably quite accurate.

Those of us who make creativity a priority are unlikely to strive for much in the Corporate World of business and making money from our passions is not always easy, or possible, despite what all those self-help guru’s suggest. Many of us work just because. Many HSPs really struggle to hold down a job, always searching for the perfect fit.

I have certainly found working to be quite strenuous and uninspiring thus far in my life. Minimalism is excellent in this regard, because it helps you to take a step back and to question whether you really need something, and whether it will really add any value to your life.

Let’s face it – If you struggle to make money, and don’t enjoy doing what has to be done to make that money, then money is especially valuable to you and should only be spent on things that create joy and excitement.

Without wanting to repeat myself like a broken record, I used to spend most of my income on material items. I built up a large collection of DVDs, Blu-rays, Books & Video Games. I have come to learn (the hard way) that you cannot buy happiness. Happiness really is a feeling generated within. You may have noticed that on some days, playing a video game or watching a TV show make you feel really content and peaceful. You aren’t worrying about achieving loads of goals, and you don’t want to be anywhere else. These feelings may be rare, but they go to show us that things are not the answer.

In fact, things often just get in the way of our happiness and leave us feeling like we never have time to do anything important. If you have lots of subscriptions, like Netflix, Kindle Unlimited, WWE Network, Xbox Live – whatever, and you are also are a member of a gym … maybe it’s time to step back and ask yourself, ‘Do I need all of these outgoings? Am I getting value out of my spendings?’

So many people join a gym with enthusiasm and desire, going 4-5 times a week. Then life gets hectic and they struggle to make an appearance even once a week.

The richest people in the World can still feel very insecure and unhappy. While it’s nice to get away from a job you detest, extra money and extra stuff is unlikely to make you any happier … It’s like with food. When you have eaten and are no longer hungry, it loses it’s appeal. If you were a Millionaire, you would probably get very bored and only then would you realise a brand new car is not the answer …

I made a short YouTube video talking about this in more depth, so if you want some inspiration for saving your money (and using it more wisely), be sure to check that out here:

Thanks, as always, for taking the time to read this Blog.

I will see you in the next one.

~ Stefan.

How to Overcome Social Anxiety

What is the root cause of social anxiety and self-doubt?

Without a doubt, it’s a lack of self-esteem and unwillingness to accept yourself as you are – flaws and all.

In order to be confident around people, you have to OWN your personality, the way you look and what makes you … you. If you are an introvert, or on the shy end of the spectrum, that is okay. But in your mind, you make it not okay. You isolate yourself and feel awkward around others, because you strongly fear their judgement.

What I have learned, after years of struggling with this stuff, is that:

  1. Most people don’t judge you nearly as harshly as you would imagine
  2. You create the reactions you get by the vibe you put out – they are probably looking at you weirdly because you are looking at them weirdly!
  3. It doesn’t matter if people like you. If you are not causing harm to others, then you are a decent human being, and you need to lay off yourself.

I made a YouTube video to emphasize these points, so be sure to check that out right here:

I actually set up a separate channel for High Sensitivity, but given that my existing channel already has a subscriber-base, you are more likely to see me creating content there – so be sure to Subscribe if you want to see more!

I’ll catch you in the next post 🙂

~ Stefan

Cluttered Home, Cluttered Mind …

Among the many days of dark depression and crazy self-destructive thoughts, I have learned a thing or two about this thing called Life through my struggles.

I have realised – sooner than many (and some will never learn) – that happiness does not rely upon external measures, although the outer World can certainly affect the way one feels.

For instance, imagine winning the lottery or being taken hostage by some men wearing masks. Both would obviously make it difficult to remain unchanged. Both are also unlikely to ever occur to you.

During my depression, I accumulated a lot of things. It was never my goal to do this … It just kind of happened. I wasn’t very sociable and didn’t piss away my income on booze at the weekends, like many late-teens/20-somethings do. I probably should have saved the money … I would be thanking myself now.

At one point, in 2011, I did have about £6000 in my bank account. But with how I was feeling, I decided to stop working a dull job and sat around doing not-all-that-much for 5 months until it ran out and I had to take the first job that came about. I was 21 at the time and so didn’t feel any real sense of urgency to sort everything out.

Anyway … you’re probably aware of what minimalism is.

It’s a very typical thing for someone like me to gravitate towards. Did I mention I am Vegan and practice mindfulness? How fucking original am I?

I am a certain breed – beyond the highly sensitive person. I am one of those people who just doesn’t ‘get’ life. I don’t get why people want to work their asses off in jobs they despise, in order to buy a shiny car – for what? A way to impress people and feel desired? That seems pretty shallow to me. And you will still get stuck in traffic.

Maybe I had to become a hoarder to realise material things only get in the way – of self-expression, growth and creativity. Too many material things, at least.

I stopped my ‘must-buy-another-item’ addiction a couple of years ago, or longer. But much of the stuff remains, largely covered in dust and worth close to nothing.

I have had a few clear outs during the last year or so, but there’s still a lot of clutter and it’ll be a bitch to move.

So, what kind of things was I buying?

Books, DVD’s, Blu-ray’s, Video games, Clothes … nothing too weird … a couple of butt plugs (joking! I only needed one). At one point, I spent £5000 on Invisalign, which straightens your teeth. My teeth are much better looking for it, but I could probably have saved £30,000 by now if I had learned to manage my finances better. Corr, that’d be nice.

I wish I could bring myself to get rid of everything. Part of me knows it’d be very helpful for my mind. It’s hard to come home and feel the burden of all those things – staring at me with judgement. ‘I’ve been sat here for 5 years and I’m still in a wrapper. You paid £35 for me and now I am worth pennies – lol’.

The most important thing is to break the cycle. I rarely buy clothes now, because there is no need. Most days I have to wear a shirt and trousers, so why bother owning so many t-shirts and pairs of jeans? And with Netflix, who the fuck needs to buy DVDs? I still love going to the cinema, but why buy something you will only watch once or twice?

In honesty, I am happiest when I’m just outside in nature with my dog or watching Netflix with my girlfriend, or reading a book. Seeing that none of those really cost a great deal, and with my surplus of supply, I have everything I need to enjoy myself …

That’s when going to work gets in the way.

Spending most of your waking hours in an office that you hate is no way to live. So … now, having learned how happiness works … I am careful with what my money goes towards. I have been saving money for the last year and could afford to be off work for half a year if I quit tomorrow. I don’t want a repeat of 2011, though. My long term approach is to reduce the distractions in my life and come home to an almost empty house. Without having to hide books under my bed, or stuff my cupboards with clothes.

If you can relate, maybe you should think about doing the same.

I would much rather spend my money on things that are freeing. Clutter will keep you tied down in one place, never feeling like you have time to get to everything. I want to explore, and reduce hours spent doing boring things like sitting at a desk answering phone calls and staring at a screen.

The thought of being able to live simply really appeals to me. Everyone is so stressed out because there is always something else to do. It’d be nice to step back to a time when people rode bike’s instead of just driving everything. Or played board-games instead of phone-apps. Or talked to each-other at a restaurant, instead of talking to people on Facebook.

A great quote I once came across was, ‘The Man who chases two rabbits catches none’ (Ancient Chinese Proverb). First of all, leave the rabbits alone. Secondly, the quote goes to show if you are striving to do so many things – you will only ever remain mediocre in each. You could be an amazing actor, singer, artist – whatever you want – if only you put in the time and committed to ONE THING. Maybe you need some degree of natural talent, but, more than anything, you need the staying power of practice.

Here’s a great video I watched yesterday about a guy who quit an $80K per year job to work part-time at a grocery store:

Thanks for reading and sorry I’ve not posted in a few weeks.

~ Alex.

 

 

 

Are you having fun yet?

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Hello and welcome to another post.

My last post on Veganism did surprisingly well, receiving many more views and shares than usual. That was nice.

I have been doing some thinking.

About what I should do with the rest of my life. I have too often given into fear and plodded along, feeling safe but dreadfully uninspired and listless – ‘going through the motions’, as they say.

Ever since I left High School at 16, I have felt lost and worked in jobs I despise. All for that small paycheck each month. After High School, I went to College and studied Business and Finance. I only picked the subject because it sounded safe and usable in the real World. Not to mention, I had no idea what else to do. I thought about doing Drama and Film Studies … that kind of thing. But the realist in me said it’d be a waste of time and would get me nowhere.

I did tremendously well in the Business & Finance course (a BTEC National Diploma), getting top grades, but I felt no sense of achievement because it was all meaningless and I was too busy worrying about my health and feeling depressed (having reacted badly to the medication, Roaccutane).

It is surprising how fast the years can go by. Let’s face it – there are things along the way that are changing and keeping you busy, so you don’t always notice what is happening and where you are headed. Suddenly it’s the start of another year, or your birthday, and you realise you are wasting time …

I have been working within Insurance for the past 3 years (working for 3 different employers). I can do it, easy enough. But the repetition, the stress, the workload … where is the pay off? What’s the sodding point?

I realised that part of the problem is feeling stagnant. I am no longer learning and I am terribly bored of it all. A job can suck all of your energy if it isn’t right for you and so I realise it is time to get my act together, before I end up trapped forever.

So, whilst I don’t have a precise plan yet – and I really should have figured all of this out sooner – I am going to learn new things. I am going to follow my heart, because I have rarely done so and it has left me a shadow, barely living.

I think my options are as follows:

  • Study part-time, selecting an Open University course. This would take six years.
  • Or – going to a University and getting a Bachelor’s degree. This would take three years.

I think I prefer the sound of Option B.

So, the next question is what would I study? It’s got to be something I actually WANT to learn and use. I am going to dig deeper, but my interests (that I think I could get a job out of at the end of it) are:

  • Psychology
  • Sociology
  • Philosophy
  • Social Work
  • English (Writing)
  • Journalism
  • Counselling
  • Psychotherapy
  • Animal Science

I think Psychology or Philosophy are the two that stick out the most for me. I don’t really know what job I could get from Philosophy, but I am very interested in ideologies surrounding our existence and around ethics. As I have explained before, and as you may gather with me being a HSP, ethics are very important to me.

But that’s good isn’t it? …

I’m thinking now. Instead of feeling like I can’t make a decision or feeling like my only option is to do what I have always done, I am actually looking into my options. I used to hope that there was an easier path. One where I didn’t have to study. But any time I look at jobs being posted, they are all … ahem, crap.

Without a degree, I can easily get a job in retail, insurance or admin.

But life is too short to sell your soul for a paycheck. I crave meaning and I want to care about the work I do.

I want to make a difference.

If I have to study for a few years in order to secure a better future, then so be it. And I am still terrified. I can still over-think it and worry that a degree isn’t enough to find a job afterwards. Or that I’ll struggle. Or people won’t like me on the course.

But sometimes you have to tell that cynical voice to keep it down and focus on what you want. And you need to have a bit of faith in yourself.

I’d love to hear from you in the comments.

~ Alex.

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Strawberries don’t bleed … (Why I’m Vegan)

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There is definitely a link between being Highly Sensitive and going Vegan.

I challenge any HSP to watch Earthlings or learn about animal agriculture and NOT go Vegan. We are naturally highly empathetic and, trust me, once your eyes are opened, you can never see things the same again. It is like you escape the Matrix.

My eyes are scarred from the things I have seen. Years ago, I had no idea how cruel Mankind could be. It seemed so normal to eat meat every day. And I LOVED eating meat.

Most of us are brought up in a way where we are so disconnected to the reality of mass farming and slaughterhouses.

Becoming Vegan has changed me for the better.

I have been Vegan for around 4 or 5 months, which really isn’t very long. But some people claim they couldn’t go a day without meat – let alone without any animal products. Whilst this is obviously untrue, people don’t want to have to change their habits and imagine a plate of whatever they usually eat, less the meat. It’s no wonder the idea of going Vegan seems unappealing and difficult.

And I won’t lie. There are some challenges in becoming Vegan.

It has become a lot easier as time has gone on, but most restaurants are not catering to Vegans. To me, it’s crazy to see how hard it is to eat without supporting such cruel industries.

Once I made the connection in my mind that I was paying industries who profit off of suffering, it was easy to go Vegan. I was paying for animal cruelty, and yet I called myself an animal lover and would never dream of hurting one myself.

And with that said, this blog post could become terribly long. There is so much to say and so much to explain to those who – like me once upon a time – are unaware of why Dairy is cruel. Or why the Egg industry is cruel. People believe what they are told and are too busy to look into things themselves. And so ‘Free-range’ or ‘Organic’ must mean the animals are treated well … right?

Sigh.

If only it were true …

I am not going to be able to say everything I want to in this one post, so if you have any questions please do ask and I promise to come back to you.

My heart is irreparably broken from what I have discovered.

The greed of man. The evil man is capable of. The way these poor animals are exploited and used. They are treated like nothing – just a number. Nothing is given back. All we do is take, take, take. We are destroying the planet in a way I never understood before I became Vegan.

Did you know it is estimated our Oceans will be Fish-less by 2048 unless we rapidly start to implement big changes?

Did you know that Livestock covers 45% of the Earth’s land? Animal agriculture is the cause of the largest mass extinction in 65 million years (which might not sit well with anyone who believes the Earth is only 3000 years old and Eve was made out of one of Adam’s ribs).

A farm of 2,500 dairy cows produces the same amount of waste as  a city of 411,000 people. And we are told to recycle some pieces of card and to turn of the standby light of our Television. What a joke.

1-2 acres of Rain-forest are cleared every second because of animal agriculture.

More than 150 BILLION animals are slaughtered every year – not including those killed in laboratories for drug/cosmetics testing.

Some scary, but very real, facts right there. It can seem hard to imagine.

Being Vegan means far beyond just eating a certain way. It is no fad diet – and there are plenty of those going around. It is a belief that life is precious and should be treated with respect and compassion. It is a stand against oppression and cruelty. It is an understanding that you cannot put the words ‘humane’ and ‘slaughter’ together. It is an awakening of the soul. And that awakening can hurt.

When you realise what humans do to animals – for food, entertainment, fur, leather or just sick pleasure … it’s all very upsetting. I have lost sleep over these things and I feel I can never be truly happy again.

I want to share a video that made me cry.

I should mention I hardly ever cry. I usually just feel numb when I get depressed. I can enter a state of derealization, where everything feels distant. Probably an in-built coping mechanism to deal with intense emotions.

But the man in this video is a real life hero. And being a hero in real life doesn’t come with glory. Being a hero doesn’t mean you were built with monster strength or superpowers. It means you are brave enough to face what one should never have to face. It means you risk your life and accept the chance you might die for something you believe in so deeply and know is right.

Let me introduce Marc Ching from the foundation, Animal Hope & Wellness. Here is a real man, with a heart the size of Everest. He went over to China to fight against the indescribable cruelty within the Dog Meat Trade. Because China (or some people within China) have some very broken traditional beliefs, they think that the meat tastes better if you torture the animals before killing them. You might already be aware of this because of the spark of outrage over the Yulin Festival.

However, the Yulin Festival is just one small segment of such cruelty.

Tens of Millions of dogs are killed throughout Asia each year for food. They also kill dogs and cats for leather, so FYI – if you wear leather, check the label. If it says ‘Made in China’, you might be wearing the skin of a dog. Not that this should be any more sickening than wearing the skin of a cow. Many people – the one’s that even stop to think about it – think that leather is produced as a result of the meat industry. Nope. Cows are killed purely for leather. I know this information may be a lot to take in, or maybe you are waiting for a silver lining …

I just want to raise some awareness about the injustice in our World. Animals are the most oppressed and nearly all of this stuff is kept hidden in our culture. All so little Timmy doesn’t have to question where his Happy Meal or McNugget’s came from. If little Timmy happens to ask, his Mother will tell him lies because she is too ashamed.

I have gone off on a bit of a tangent, but my emotions are firing off as I write this. Please watch this video, where Marc Ching is interviewed about his Foundation and helping to save dogs in China. If there is a more inspirational man than Marc, please tell me who:

This video should have Millions of views, but people would rather watch Zoella and Nicki Minaj. If everyone would come together to fight to injustice and cruelty, we would see huge change overnight. But people are scared to confront the truth and to see how messed up our World is. It’s painful.

Marc has sacrificed his own sanity and peace of mind in order to help rescue and rehabilitate animals who would purposely have their legs cut off, or be boiled/skinned alive for a meal at some ridiculous festival.

But let’s go back to the Western World.

Pigs, cows, lambs, ducks, chickens and more …

People don’t really care so much about those animals. Slaughterhouse workers are obviously maniacs and yet people want to believe the animal had a good life and was treated with at least some dignity. Before slaughter, what conditions were those animals in? It’s shocking when you find out – but what do you expect? The planet isn’t big enough to let all the animals run freely like the cold-hearted companies would have you believe.

Because of the working pace within a slaughterhouse, it is well documented that the animals are often not correctly stunned (not that it sounds much fun to have electricity jolted into your brain in the first place), so these farm animals often have their throats slit while fully conscious. I have seen undercover footage where pigs are having their hair removed in boiling water … fully conscious again. That sounds familiar doesn’t it? Yet, people that love ‘Bacon’ will become hostile about the injustice of what ‘those people all the way over there in China’ are doing. If you are not Vegan, you are handing over your money and paying for these atrocities.

But let’s say you let the animals live outside on a field, as 1% of the animals raised for food do get this privilege. They have a nice time relaxing in the Sun. Maybe they face some rain here and there. They grow to a satisfactory size within a few months or years. They are ready to be turned into a burger, or bacon, or whatever.

If the animal has a bolt applied to its head and then its throat is slit while unconscious – so it doesn’t feel anything – is that okay?

Would it be okay if that pig was you? It almost makes it worse to take the life of someone who was happy and healthy, but ultimately I want to get the point across that murder is not humane or okay. Just like rape is not okay.

Humans like to argue, ‘But Lions eat other animals … other animals eat other animals’.

That’s true – some do. And yet we do not have the same instincts as a Lion. We do not sniff each others butts or salivate when we see a cow in a field. We do salivate when we smell fruit though. And strawberries don’t have to be gutted. They don’t bleed or scream. We are not carnivorous and have no biological need for flesh. Our bodies match that of a Gorilla – and they are naturally ‘Vegan’.

I used to be worried that I would suffer for cutting animal products from my diet. It’s so silly … Nobody really thinks Vegetarians are weird now. But once you stop breast-feeding (drinking cows’ milk) and eating chicken’s menstrual cycles, people label you as a weird-ass hippy.

There is so much social conditioning and if we were raised in a different culture, we may also think it’s okay to cause animals pain in order to make their flesh more tender.

Please open your eyes and think for yourself.

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There are so many myths about protein, calcium, iron … it’s ridiculous. As if everyone is super healthy on the diets heavily based around meat and dairy, right? Our hospitals are all empty because everyone has it figured out. Not that I’m saying meat and animal products are the ONLY problems with out diets and lifestyles. But, like we really are all going to become calcium deficient if we don’t have a pregnant cow on tap at all times? C’mon, use some logic, Jesus!

Please do further research by checking out ‘Cowspiracy’, ‘Earthlings’ and ‘Forks over Knives’. There are plenty of great YouTuber’s who can help you to understand the benefits of going Vegan (avoid ‘Freelee The Banana Girl’ and ‘Durianrider’).

At first, it was weird for me to eat a meal without meat on one side of the plate. But now, it’d be repulsive to have it there. I stopped drinking cows’ milk a couple of years ago, because I always knew dairy didn’t make sense. Once I realised the cruelty involved in Dairy, it was easy to stop buying cheese. I still have chocolate, but buy either Dark Chocolate or some bars from the ‘free-from’ aisle. It honestly tastes great. You can get these Hazelnut ‘Vego’ bars online, which are kind of expensive, but they honestly taste better than anything you’ve ever had.

I also stopped eating Red-Meat a couple of years ago, so the transition was pretty gradual for me.

I eat very healthy the majority of the time, because my health is important to me. Everyone has their own definition of what foods are healthy, but we can all hopefully agree that Fruit and Vegetables are the number 1 and 2 things we should be consuming every day. The variety in colour is appealing to our eyes for a reason.

I have a YouTube channel I have been running for a few years, which is separate to my new HSP-related channel. I have plenty of videos on Veganism (and mental health, and other things) if you want to check them out.

Here’s a link to one of my videos. I will let you look through more yourself if you wish to:

If you made it this far, that is incredible. Leave a comment saying ‘I like puppies’.

I call myself Alex on the Blog because I wanted to keep it private and un-searchable by my Employer and other people.

I like to be able to talk with complete honesty and openness.

Thank you for your time today,

~ Alex.

 

I’m an INFJ.

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Hello again.

I hope you are having a nice day.

As well as being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), I am also an INFJ. If you are not familiar with the term or the Myers-Briggs personality test, I highly recommend you give it a go yourself here. I have found it to be very helpful in understanding myself.

I expect it is somewhat common among HSPs to also be INFJs but, out of the 16 personalities, this is said to be the most rare – especially for men. Also known as “The Advocate” or “The Romantic”, INFJs account for less than 1% of the population.

This might explain why I nearly always feel like the odd one out. Like I don’t fit in anywhere. Like I am different.

But maybe being different is okay – good, even.

Because is the average person happy? Does the average person drink and smoke to deal with their problems in life? Do they find fulfillment and connection or are they merely a consumer of the media and over-priced clothing and material objects, chasing status or fame?

As an INFJ, I have a very high sense of morality and am extremely idealistic. Think of Gandhi, who was thrown into this category. On the positive side, we see what is lacking and what needs to be changed – we want to make the World better. But our desires for change can be met by much resistance, as many people would prefer to do things the way they have always been done. Some people don’t think there is anything wrong with this World…

It isn’t a coincidence that I found Veganism – but I will save the talk on this topic for another, more in-depth post.

At the core of the INFJ is a desire to make a difference to this World. To spread happiness and kindness. Hostile environments make us tense and we feel the need to leave those situations so we don’t become overwhelmed with negative energy, which is hard to absorb. People beeping at each other in traffic can make us feel on edge. An argument with a spouse can leave us feeling drained of energy. We have a ‘Can’t we all just get along?’ mentality, which could be considered naive given the state of our World.

We should probably recognise that most other people aren’t born with the same set of values as us. But it can be hard to have any empathy for those who chase money and power while hurting those who stand in their way. Or for those who cheat on their partners, or manipulate them for their own gain.

Speaking from my own experience, I very much lack empathy for those who act selfishly and hurt others in order to get what they want. Relating this to being Vegan, I can feel extremely angry if I see a video of someone hurting an animal ‘for fun’. And while this is the natural reaction that many other people would share, I find it hard to let go as I want so much to see justice and retribution. I sometimes create fantasies in my mind where I catch the perpetrator and torture them in painful ways. I mean, I seriously beat the fucking shit out of those horrible bullies!

In reality, this isn’t useful as I have yet to find myself in a position where I can carry out such acts. And who is to say I would be able to in reality? But seriously – hurt an animal and I will go Liam Neeson on your ass.

INFJs are known for their creativity. The ‘I’ stands for introverted, so we spend a lot of our time turning inwards and thinking. This can be great, but if we are in the wrong environment, we can become chronically stressed and negative. Anxiety and Depression are common, because there is always a need for improvement – in ourselves and in the outer World. We are very perfectionistic and expect far too much of ourselves. We focus on what went wrong instead of what went well. Something often feels missing and so – most of the time – we feel discontent.

Personally, I find it incredibly difficult to conform to rules and one-way approaches too. My current job in Car Insurance is unfulfilling to me, because it doesn’t offer me the opportunity to be creative. Everything is rigid and lacking in any personality. I don’t like to use technical jargon like ‘on a without prejudice basis’ or ‘knock for knock’. I would prefer to speak in real, animated ways. Just speak plain fucking English! Every now and then I will get a letter from a ‘third party’ solicitor and they really can talk some old bollocks.

INFJs – as well as HSPs – are prone to becoming overwhelmed and burned out, because things are rarely ‘good enough’ and so much needs to be sorted out. Being an introvert in itself can be challenging given the work-structures of nearly every company, but combined with the high expectations and over-stimulation we face in crowds or when in a situation we feel trapped by, one can sink into some very low moods. This is likely why I developed Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, which I am still very hopeful to resolve.

Despite the difficulties I face on a daily basis, this way of being has made me very spiritual and – in the good moments – I feel very connected and at one with the Universe. I must monitor my energy levels – physically, mentally and socially – so I do not become ‘that guy’ who I don’t like so much. All of this is a journey and the more we understand our needs and meet them, the happier we can be. Whatever our personality type, we need to understand ourselves as best we can so we can make the right decisions in life – whether that revolves around Career, Hobbies or Relationships.

You can read all about INFJs in more detail here.

Thank you again for taking the time out of your day to read my thoughts. Please do follow me for further posts on being a Highly Sensitive DUDEEEEEEE. Don’t forget to like the new Facebook page for updates > BOOBIES!!!

I will try to make time to record some more videos for the YouTube channel soon.

Peace.

~ Alex.