How To Save More Money!

I have touched on Minimalism in the past, but it’s something that will stay with me for the rest of my life – a lesson worth learning.

Based on the Myers-Briggs personality test, my personality type – INFJ – is one of the least likely to be financially successful. While I don’t think it’s a good idea to throw yourself into a category and believe you are destined to only achieve so much, it’s probably quite accurate.

Those of us who make creativity a priority are unlikely to strive for much in the Corporate World of business and making money from our passions is not always easy, or possible, despite what all those self-help guru’s suggest. Many of us work just because. Many HSPs really struggle to hold down a job, always searching for the perfect fit.

I have certainly found working to be quite strenuous and uninspiring thus far in my life. Minimalism is excellent in this regard, because it helps you to take a step back and to question whether you really need something, and whether it will really add any value to your life.

Let’s face it – If you struggle to make money, and don’t enjoy doing what has to be done to make that money, then money is especially valuable to you and should only be spent on things that create joy and excitement.

Without wanting to repeat myself like a broken record, I used to spend most of my income on material items. I built up a large collection of DVDs, Blu-rays, Books & Video Games. I have come to learn (the hard way) that you cannot buy happiness. Happiness really is a feeling generated within. You may have noticed that on some days, playing a video game or watching a TV show make you feel really content and peaceful. You aren’t worrying about achieving loads of goals, and you don’t want to be anywhere else. These feelings may be rare, but they go to show us that things are not the answer.

In fact, things often just get in the way of our happiness and leave us feeling like we never have time to do anything important. If you have lots of subscriptions, like Netflix, Kindle Unlimited, WWE Network, Xbox Live – whatever, and you are also are a member of a gym … maybe it’s time to step back and ask yourself, ‘Do I need all of these outgoings? Am I getting value out of my spendings?’

So many people join a gym with enthusiasm and desire, going 4-5 times a week. Then life gets hectic and they struggle to make an appearance even once a week.

The richest people in the World can still feel very insecure and unhappy. While it’s nice to get away from a job you detest, extra money and extra stuff is unlikely to make you any happier … It’s like with food. When you have eaten and are no longer hungry, it loses it’s appeal. If you were a Millionaire, you would probably get very bored and only then would you realise a brand new car is not the answer …

I made a short YouTube video talking about this in more depth, so if you want some inspiration for saving your money (and using it more wisely), be sure to check that out here:

Thanks, as always, for taking the time to read this Blog.

I will see you in the next one.

~ Stefan.

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I’m an INFJ.

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Hello again.

I hope you are having a nice day.

As well as being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), I am also an INFJ. If you are not familiar with the term or the Myers-Briggs personality test, I highly recommend you give it a go yourself here. I have found it to be very helpful in understanding myself.

I expect it is somewhat common among HSPs to also be INFJs but, out of the 16 personalities, this is said to be the most rare – especially for men. Also known as “The Advocate” or “The Romantic”, INFJs account for less than 1% of the population.

This might explain why I nearly always feel like the odd one out. Like I don’t fit in anywhere. Like I am different.

But maybe being different is okay – good, even.

Because is the average person happy? Does the average person drink and smoke to deal with their problems in life? Do they find fulfillment and connection or are they merely a consumer of the media and over-priced clothing and material objects, chasing status or fame?

As an INFJ, I have a very high sense of morality and am extremely idealistic. Think of Gandhi, who was thrown into this category. On the positive side, we see what is lacking and what needs to be changed – we want to make the World better. But our desires for change can be met by much resistance, as many people would prefer to do things the way they have always been done. Some people don’t think there is anything wrong with this World…

It isn’t a coincidence that I found Veganism – but I will save the talk on this topic for another, more in-depth post.

At the core of the INFJ is a desire to make a difference to this World. To spread happiness and kindness. Hostile environments make us tense and we feel the need to leave those situations so we don’t become overwhelmed with negative energy, which is hard to absorb. People beeping at each other in traffic can make us feel on edge. An argument with a spouse can leave us feeling drained of energy. We have a ‘Can’t we all just get along?’ mentality, which could be considered naive given the state of our World.

We should probably recognise that most other people aren’t born with the same set of values as us. But it can be hard to have any empathy for those who chase money and power while hurting those who stand in their way. Or for those who cheat on their partners, or manipulate them for their own gain.

Speaking from my own experience, I very much lack empathy for those who act selfishly and hurt others in order to get what they want. Relating this to being Vegan, I can feel extremely angry if I see a video of someone hurting an animal ‘for fun’. And while this is the natural reaction that many other people would share, I find it hard to let go as I want so much to see justice and retribution. I sometimes create fantasies in my mind where I catch the perpetrator and torture them in painful ways. I mean, I seriously beat the fucking shit out of those horrible bullies!

In reality, this isn’t useful as I have yet to find myself in a position where I can carry out such acts. And who is to say I would be able to in reality? But seriously – hurt an animal and I will go Liam Neeson on your ass.

INFJs are known for their creativity. The ‘I’ stands for introverted, so we spend a lot of our time turning inwards and thinking. This can be great, but if we are in the wrong environment, we can become chronically stressed and negative. Anxiety and Depression are common, because there is always a need for improvement – in ourselves and in the outer World. We are very perfectionistic and expect far too much of ourselves. We focus on what went wrong instead of what went well. Something often feels missing and so – most of the time – we feel discontent.

Personally, I find it incredibly difficult to conform to rules and one-way approaches too. My current job in Car Insurance is unfulfilling to me, because it doesn’t offer me the opportunity to be creative. Everything is rigid and lacking in any personality. I don’t like to use technical jargon like ‘on a without prejudice basis’ or ‘knock for knock’. I would prefer to speak in real, animated ways. Just speak plain fucking English! Every now and then I will get a letter from a ‘third party’ solicitor and they really can talk some old bollocks.

INFJs – as well as HSPs – are prone to becoming overwhelmed and burned out, because things are rarely ‘good enough’ and so much needs to be sorted out. Being an introvert in itself can be challenging given the work-structures of nearly every company, but combined with the high expectations and over-stimulation we face in crowds or when in a situation we feel trapped by, one can sink into some very low moods. This is likely why I developed Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, which I am still very hopeful to resolve.

Despite the difficulties I face on a daily basis, this way of being has made me very spiritual and – in the good moments – I feel very connected and at one with the Universe. I must monitor my energy levels – physically, mentally and socially – so I do not become ‘that guy’ who I don’t like so much. All of this is a journey and the more we understand our needs and meet them, the happier we can be. Whatever our personality type, we need to understand ourselves as best we can so we can make the right decisions in life – whether that revolves around Career, Hobbies or Relationships.

You can read all about INFJs in more detail here.

Thank you again for taking the time out of your day to read my thoughts. Please do follow me for further posts on being a Highly Sensitive DUDEEEEEEE. Don’t forget to like the new Facebook page for updates > BOOBIES!!!

I will try to make time to record some more videos for the YouTube channel soon.

Peace.

~ Alex.