As this blog has only just started, it makes sense to touch base with the basics of being a HSP.
So, what kind of boxes do you need to tick off in order to establish that you are, in fact, a Highly Sensitive Person?
If you relate to a lot of the below, and would have done if I had of asked the same a year ago (meaning you are not just going through a rough patch), the chances are likely that you are a HSP like me! Welcome to the club if so. Have a badge. (Reminder to self: Get some badges for the people!)
One other note before we begin. I am an introvert. Most HSPs are, but Elaine Aron (who I mentioned in my first post) estimates around 30% to be extroverted. I apologise if some of the below seems directed more towards introverts, but I am speaking from my own experiences.
I also apologise if you think apologise should be spelled with a ‘Z’. You are wrong, my American friends!
Let’s go through a few questions to see if you are officially Highly Sensitive …
P.S. THE LIST IS LONG!
- Do you startle easily, such as when a loud noise comes on suddenly? (BEEP! BEEP!)
- When you were younger, were you often regarded as ‘Shy’ or ‘Very Quiet’?
- Would you struggle to cope under pressure or while being watched? (‘Oh no! My fingers appear to have turned into Jelly .. Let me just try and type that sentence again … Oops. This must be happening because you are WATCHING MY EVERY MOVE!!’)
- Do you become exhausted if you are unable to get away by yourself for a while?
- Do you have a deep connection with nature and animals?
- Do you appreciate art and lean towards creativity?
- Does an open office look a lot like HELL to you?
- Do you overthink things and worry more than what might be considered ‘normal’?
- Do you find yourself overwhelmed with sadness when you hear of bad and tragic news? Is it hard for you to let go of that sadness?
- Would your ideal day be sitting outside in your garden with a book, as opposed to drinking in a bar full of people or shopping in a Mall?
- Do other people’s moods affect you? I.e. does their anger make you feel really awkward and uncomfortable?
- Does small talk just seem like a complete waste of time to you?!
- Do you often come home from work and retreat to your bedroom, drawing the curtains?
- Are you very self-aware?
- Are you unable to tolerate caffeine and other stimulants? Will coffee make you feel anxious and jittery? Does alcohol affect you quickly and leave you feeling a shambles the next day if you have more than a few drinks?
- Do you get stressed when you are forced to multi-task?
- Do you try hard to avoid making mistakes?
- Are you hard on yourself? Perfectionist, much?
- Is it impossible for you to shut out irritating noises, such as a ticking clock? (TICK, TOCK. TICK, TOCK. ‘Oh, God! It’s counting down the seconds until I cease to exist!’)
- Do you spend much of your time reflecting on things inside your head instead of looking at the World around you?
- Do you feel like you are lagging behind everyone else?
- Do you enjoy quiet and solitude, particularly late at night?
- Do you sometimes struggle with insomnia and poor sleep?
- Are you sensitive to hunger? I.e. ‘I am going to commit atrocities if I don’t eat something! It’s been like 3 hours since I ate!!’
- Does change make you feel uncomfortable and are you slow to adjust to new people and environments?
That’s my list I put together with a bit of thought. I think that just about covers it.
I know some HSPs are sensitive to violent films and TV shows, but I personally enjoy watching horror films and crime shows. Although, perhaps they are more stimulating to me than for those usual folk.
Can you relate to the above? Did I miss anything?
I would love to hear about YOUR experiences as a HSP.
Until we meet again, take care of yourself and dream big.